a year ago today, I started dating my boyfriend, my knight in shining armor, confidant, biggest cheerleader, heart in human form, shoulder to cry on, biggest teacher, road trip buddy, cooking partner, speaker partner (iykyk) and of course my bestie.
If you know me, you know I’m always on the go, doing 25,000 things at once. Over the past year, I’ve been steadily reminded to literally just breathe. I stress myself out for no reason 95% of the time and having a partner to check on you and just rub your back, reminding you to breathe for a second means more than you know.
it’s okay to cry
I know this sounds very cliche, however, being with my person has taught me a lot about being emotionally vulnerable. We definitely balance each other out in this area but have learned so much from the other person. Your significant other should never ever make you feel wrong or guilty for expressing how you feel about anything. Whether it’s crying over a sad scene in a movie or expressing to them how they made you feel. The right person will hold you and support you while you cry about stubbing your toe or losing a loved one.
to my person: sorry for all of the makeup stains on your shirts from the tears 💀 but, thank you for genuinely always being there.
speak up for yourself
this is probably the number one thing I’ve learned from my person. I’m the type of person to not speak up about something right away and sometimes I even brush things off completely. On the other hand, he is the complete opposite. Over the past year, I have grown so much in all of my relationships because of this small yet important lesson.
to my person: thank you, love 🙂
I’m worthy of love
the love that I receive in this relationship is literally what I have always deserved. I am worthy and deserving of it every single day. No matter what your past looks like, a mistake you make during your relationship. You are ALWAYS worthy of unconditional love.
if your person is really your person, you should be more than comfortable to talk about the future, things that make you happy, sad, confused, concerned, etc. In prior relationships, romantic, platonic, etc., I have always kept certain thoughts to myself or just let things slide. However, I have recently learned that space is created to talk about any and everything in truly loving relationships.
it’s okay if you’re not best friends first
this is something that I recently became comfortable with, to be 100% honest. Remember, good things come to those who wait. My person and I met in an interesting way lol but it’s a great story. Recently, we have been talking and just thinking out loud like wow, you are truly my best friend. No, we did not start as best friends and it was sort of a “you cute, i’m cute what’s up 👀” type of situation. But, my person is truly my bestie. The first person I run to tell any type of news and the person I want to share all my successful moments with as well! So if you are in a relationship or about to enter one please don’t feel weird if the premise of your relationship wasn’t platonic. The bestie moment will come lol.
to my person: thanks for being my best friend!!!
communication is different for everyone, but make sure you do it
my person and I have grown so much in this aspect of our relationship. like I said earlier, he has taught me to speak up and we have also taught each other so much about communication. I will honestly say I was such a horrible communicator before meeting him. We have learned that how you communicated in your household growing up without a doubt affects how you communicate in your relationships as you grow up. For example, my person usually speaks up about anything he wants to communicate right away. However, I am the type of person to sit and think a little. If I just go into a conversation, 8 times out of 10 I won’t express everything on my mind, ultimately undermining my own feelings. So in our relationship what works best for me is sitting for a second and thinking and if I need to journal I will. Then my person and I will have a conversation and I have even read my journal to him. To make sure I am fully communicating my feelings and so he 100% understands my raw, true feelings.
to my person: thank you for teaching me so much about communication and going on this journey with me <3
to my readers: i’m so happy I get to share such an important part of my life with you all and I hope these notes helped you a little in the love category 🙂
